When I asked psychiatrist Dr Megan Poe why people lose their sense of self in relationships, she said it’s sometimes because they’re trying to ‘echo-locate the other and not reveal the self’ and merge with them.
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If I was in a relationship, I longed for it to last, and if I wasn’t, I longed to find one.
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We don’t learn about love at school, we don’t research it, or take a test in it, or review it once a year. We’re encouraged to learn about economics and grammar and geography, but not to know about love. It seems strange to me, how we expect so
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much from love, and yet devote so little time to understanding it. Like wanting to dive into the sea but having no interest in learning how to swim.
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Why could I walk away from a job I was unhappy with, but not from a bad relationship?
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Why did I have agency in every other aspect of my life, and not in love? Why did I assume marriage would be the end of something, and not the beginning?
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Our story existed in ambiguity, and in all the things we would never say.
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More consistent than any affection was a careless – perhaps unintentional – cruelty that I silently accepted and used as further proof that I was unlovable.
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Insecurity is the most unattractive quality in a woman,’ after I’d summoned up the courage to ask why he took so long to reply to my messages.
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Moving through the motions of intimacy with this dread pulling at the back of my mind was an anxious state to exist in, always suspecting that a person did not want to be with me but being too afraid to ask. It meant I got so good at pretending I didn’t need anything that I forgot how to be myself. It also meant I mistook instability for attraction, because the scraps of affection men tossed me were more thrilling for their inconsistency:
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