Derek Sivers

Refuse almost everything. Do almost nothing. But the things you do, do them all the way

Don’t expect your job to fulfill all your emotional needs. Don’t taint something you love with the need to make money from it. Don’t try to make your job your whole life. Don’t try to make your art your sole income. Let each be what it is, and put in the extra effort to balance the two, for a great life

When someone upsets you, it’s human nature to feel it’s their fault. But one day I tried thinking of everything as my fault.
I created the environment that made them feel they had to lie. I mistook their neutral behavior as betrayal. I made it more appealing for them to disappear than to communicate.
It felt so good to think it was all my fault!
This is way better than forgiving. When you forgive, you’re still assuming that they’re wrong and you’re the victim.
But to decide it’s your fault feels amazing! Now you weren’t wronged. People were just playing their part in the situation you helped create.
What power! Now you’re the person who made things happen, made a mistake, and can learn from it. Now you’re in control and there’s nothing to complain about