Patrick King

“actions speak louder than words”

Even the least emotionally and socially intelligent people can learn something about other people if they engage with them long enough.

Projection is a defense mechanism that can cause considerable damage and chaos if not understood for what it is. In this case, we place unwanted and unclaimed feelings onto someone or something else rather than seeing that they are a part of ourselves. We do not recognize our own “dark side” and project it onto others, blaming them for our shortcomings or seeing our flaws in their actions.

The deepest craving in every human being is the desire to be appreciated.”

Recognizing people's "inner child" is another way to understand their deepest motives.

denial and rationalization.

we look for patterns.

dark exists because of light

Chapter 13: Use HPM
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we are too busy in our own worlds to notice or appreciate others!