Conversations on Love

When I asked psychiatrist Dr Megan Poe why people lose their sense of self in relationships, she said it’s sometimes because they’re trying to ‘echo-locate the other and not reveal the self’ and merge with them.

we have to keep trying to understand the truth of how we feel – the real reason why a small criticism upsets us, or why we sulk when we are feeling insecure. There will always be temptations to hide from ourselves.

It’s like mixing paint: sometimes when you mix two people together they make a horrible colour. Some people do bring out the absolute worst colours in you and, if that’s the case, it’s the relationship that’s flawed, not you.