Because the whole thing’s got totally out of hand. You get the magazines and the things that say ‘you should behave like this. You should give blowjobs like this, or use this technique because it drives every single man in the world crazy’. And that’s the kind of angle that pretends to be liberating you sexually but is in fact kind of keeping you in a box. It’s just a modern take on the be a good wifey and give your husband what he wants, sort of thing.
Because it’s the same magazine that’s telling you how to lose weight, what to wear, how to keep your house nice, and usually they have this bit where they’re just shaming women in the public eye who are getting it wrong.