Dating a Narcissist - The Brutal Truth You Don’t Want to Hear

Do the following symptoms sound familiar?
- Ruined self confidence
- Doubting yourself and your sanity
- Mood swings
- Sleeplessness
- Extreme weight loss or weight gain
- Uncharacteristic jealousy/ insecurity
- Feeling like you don’t know the difference between right and wrong
- Extreme paranoia (being turned into an obsessive detective)
- Endless, repetitive obsessive thinking about your ex
- Constantly trying to find explanations for what has happened
- Feelings of helplessness and despair
- A desire to self isolate
- Feeling desperately misunderstood
- Overwhelming feelings of loss and grief
- Extreme bouts of rage
- An inability to be comfortable with yourself
- Strange dreams
- Sudden inexplicable anxiety followed by rapid dips into depression
The list goes on….
You are dating a narcissist, and if you haven’t figured it out already, they will never, ever change.
You can stay in the relationship and be unhappy, or you can choose to never date a narcissist again. It is not easy, I know. Because I have been there. I was you.
They are smart enough to know what you are looking for at the level of your core values and mold themselves to appear to represent that whilst provoking as much sympathy in you for them as they can.
But beneath the mask of a shy, vulnerable and “good person” something far more sinister lurks.
- A social chameleon who would wear a completely different identity depending on who they were talking to
- A sneaky, underhanded way of operating in the world that ONLY those closest to them ever get a glimpse of
- A person whose actions RARELY match their words!
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had clients tearfully admit this to me in state of absolute despair.