Relationships

Why does it hurt so much? Why am I so upset?”
“Because I want to feel loved and appreciated and I’m afraid of being abandoned and alone.”

We’re all insecure and ignorant at times and we all act out on our insecurities and ignorance in ways that hurt other people. This is called “being an asshole.”

But the best part is that the process itself validates the important feelings underlying the problems — your boyfriend is critical of you because he cares, your girlfriend is arrogant only because she feels insecure around you, and you get angry because you’re afraid she won’t like you anymore.