Clutter Busting

After your connection with yourself, your relationships with others are your priority. If a certain relationship isn’t a priority, look at whether you need to let it go

You’re letting go of clutter to make room for yourself.

• No object is more important than your peace of mind.

Then, in the moment, she stayed open and present for him so he could be open and present for himself.

Don’t let them start a “maybe” or an “I’m not sure” pile. Indecision, hesitation, and uncertainty are clutter red flags.

Or, if they give in to our pressure and get rid of whatever we think they should, they may resent us. The object may be gone, but now our relationship is cluttered.

But there’s no openness in control.

In contrast, change can cause fear, sadness, and discomfort, but the majority of the pain is in the healing. The pieces of our heart are being sewn back together, and the hurt from this is temporary. Soon we will be feeling free — and fantastic.

As with anything consistently present in our lives, we can get used to feeling despair. It becomes normal, and we lose the incentive to help ourselves.

When we recognize that we are being hurt, rather than pulling inward to try to escape the blows, we learn to remove the source of the pain.

And yet, we can’t preserve a connection with someone else when we’re not present to ourselves. Our connection to ourselves is one half of any relationship.

My client showed me her friend’s bag. As she held it, she sul