Citati iz knjige „Emotional Intelligence“ autora John Allen

loworosufe
loworosufeje citiraoпрошле године
Ever heard of the old saying "don't go to bed angry?" This saying means to take care of the issues that anger you before you suppress them and allow them to take hold of your body. Find that outlet before you rest, release them, let them go, then rest well. It is good advice and advice we all should take to heart (because it is good for our hearts!)
Fabian Vieyra
Fabian Vieyraje citiraoпре 3 дана
Positive thinking trumps negative thinking every time. Find ways to build up the positive thought process, fuel your body with positive energy and anger will not have a chance.
Fabian Vieyra
Fabian Vieyraje citiraoпре 3 дана
it to fester under the surface

Arrinconarse bajo la superficie

Джевгерат Гамзаева
Джевгерат Гамзаеваje citiralaпре 6 дана
It takes all we know about our thought process and emotional state and changes them

Он берет все, что мы знаем о нашем мыслительном процессе и эмоциональном состоянии, и изменяет их

Irene G.
Irene G.je citiraoпре 13 дана
You are in control of you during a conflict, so remember that. You cannot control the other person. You can try to direct them, but if the conflict is about you or involves you, chances are they will not care to see your point of view. You need to know when to step away, if you have tried to resolve the situation calmly to no avail, you need re realize the anger is not about you personally, especially if you have exercised your ability to manage your own emotions. Voice your side, listen to theirs, repeat it back, and if resolution does not come, walk away.

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Irene G.
Irene G.je citiraoпре 13 дана
If you encounter others experiencing an emotional out of control moment, use the opportunity to teach them how to react. Let them know you will help them through it if they will calm down first. You do not have to endure the abuse by such emotional outbursts, if they will not calm down, walk away until they do. Remember, people with emotional intelligence are leaders, so do not be afraid to show someone how to react the right way.

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Irene G.
Irene G.je citiraoпре 13 дана
If the emotion is particularly strong (be it anger, sadness, etc. you may want to find a quiet alone spot to allow the emotion to flow on through, get it out.)

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Irene G.
Irene G.je citiraoпре 13 дана
When you are experiencing an emotion, especially if you are upset, do not try to solve problems during this. Your rational thoughts will not be at their peak. Emotions distract us from our rational thoughts.

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Irene G.
Irene G.je citiraoпре 13 дана
Emotions will occur whether you want them to or not. Many who suppress them feel they have kept them under control and this is a lie, to themselves. Emotions will come out one way or another. It is when we realize this very crucial thought that we can learn how to deal with them, rather than suppress them. A person can only suppress negative emotions for so long, it will show up in physical distress from a weakened immune system, or they will simply explode in a rush of anger. Like water flowing down a mountain, it has to go somewhere.

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Irene G.
Irene G.je citiraoпре 13 дана
Letting go of anger before going to sleep does not mean to release it in a negative way. If you are angry with someone, you should not go to them to beat them up, you should go to them to talk through it, work it out. Keep control of the way you react and respond to the anger, but address the issue that brought the anger to the surface.

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Irene G.
Irene G.je citiraoпре 13 дана
Part of understanding emotions is to understand the physical effect it has on us. Emotions prompt our body to release chemicals, whether positive or negative emotions. These chemicals affect us greatly in how we continue to react to our environment. The effect of the negative emotions is the release of chemicals that will weaken our immune system over time. Once weakened, the immune system will not be able to fight off harsh illnesses and this is where the physical risk comes in with negative emotions. This is the main reason to practice emotional intelligence, for the betterment of our health. On the flip side the effect of positive emotions are the release of chemicals that will boost our immune system and make us feel much better.

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Irene G.
Irene G.je citiraoпре 13 дана
In order to master emotional intelligence you need not look to outside things to change your emotions, but look to the inside, and understand why we feel the way we feel, and what is really behind those feelings. By ignoring this, by not trying to figure out your emotions you can become sick. Not all sickness stems from emotions only, but many are greatly aggravated by strong negative emotions. Negative emotions break down our immune system and this allows illnesses to take hold of us.

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Irene G.
Irene G.je citiraoпре 13 дана
Negative thinking fuels anger, so starting at the root of the thought process by nipping the negative thinking with positive thinking may help to avoid anger. Without doing this, you are gambling with your emotions, and you might win and you might lose. It is better to learn how to control the situation at the foundation first and helps to make it easier to keep it away later. Positive thinking trumps negative thinking every time. Find ways to build up the positive thought process, fuel your body with positive energy and anger will not have a chance.

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Irene G.
Irene G.je citiraoпре 13 дана
We then seek to alleviate this stress by taking on bad habits like smoking or drinking. It is a downhill battle when we allow it to take hold and run us instead of learning how to manage it through a calm thought process.

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Irene G.
Irene G.je citiraoпре 13 дана
Fast forward to 1985, when the term "emotional intelligence" was born and penned by Wayne Payne in his doctoral dissertation about "A Study of Emotion."
After Wayne Payne's dissertation mentions emotional intelligence, a few more wrote about it until 1990 when John Mayer and Peter Salovey took the term and penned their famous article "Emotion Intelligence." In 1995, Daniel Goleman wrote "Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ."

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Irene G.
Irene G.je citiraoпре 13 дана
It was as recent as the 1930's when a man name Edward Thorndike brought up a means that helped people to exist peacefully with others. This concept was called a social intelligence and was a new thought for the time. In the 1940's, a man name David Wechsler took the thought further by commenting that the intelligence had more than one component and all worked to life's successes. Still, it did not catch on in popularity just yet.

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Irene G.
Irene G.je citiraoпре 14 дана
EI or emotional intelligence is the act of using and viewing the emotions through perception, control, and evaluation

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Irene G.
Irene G.je citiraoпре 14 дана
It was not until the mid 1980's that the term was ever heard and the theory studied in greater detail

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gagadjukicin27
gagadjukicin27je citiralaпре 17 дана
The key is to release these emotions with a cool head, having a response and reaction that keeps us from losing control.

Ključ je da se te emocije oslobodimo hladnom glavom, da imamo odgovor i reakciju koja nas sprečava da izgubimo kontrolu.

gagadjukicin27
gagadjukicin27je citiralaпре 17 дана
People always believed that the thought process or rational thinking trumps emotions and the thought process is not affected by emotions.

Ljudi su uvijek vjerovali da misaoni proces ili racionalno mišljenje pokreću emocije, a na proces razmišljanja ne utječu emocije.

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