How to Improve Your Relationships with Active Listening

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What to do when you have difficulty talking to people?

Believe it or not, difficulty talking to people is more prevalent than you think. So, as a coach who teaches people how to improve their communication in the world, I think I can give you some helpful advice to start laying the groundwork for solving this critical issue of yours.
Learn to listen. It may seem counterintuitive, but listening allows you to empathize with your interlocutor, generating an authentic connection. When someone feels heard they have a genuine interest in learning about the opinion and life of the person in front of them. And answering questions is easier than engaging in the discussion ourselves.
Reflect yourself in the other. As long as you do not have the courage to express yourself, adapt yourself to what the other person is saying. If it is a friend with whom you have difficulty keeping the tone of a conversation high, for example, give him “more space” and ask him questions to expand on what he has just said and show that you are interested. Everyone loves to talk about themselves.
Communicate “your way.” I’m familiar with that feeling of shame mixed with shyness that hits us when we have to talk to people, especially if we don’t know them. Any communication coach would tell you to “jump in.” Not me. Engage in behaviors that make you feel comfortable and never dare to do things that aren’t in your nature. Are you shy? You won’t be credible in the lion’s share. And that, as we’ll see below, is great news.
Listen to your emotions. Never ask yourself why you get stuck, because rationally you won’t be able to figure out what is blocking you. You can, however, listen to your body and the (usually primary) emotions your body suggests in the form of body signals. How do you feel when you need to communicate? Answer truthfully. Listen to your body, because it is never wrong.
Verbalize your discomfort. This is the most powerful advice I give my students during my coaching sessions. Like we said, you don’t have to play the lion’s share if you’re a minnow because you won’t be credible and you’ll be wearing an uncomfortable mask. Just say it. As soon as you can communicate that “you are uncomfortable talking to new people” or that “it is very difficult for you to start interacting with others”. Not hiding, but rather showing our weakness allows us to create a very powerful empathic bond with the other person. The moment we verbalize we are showing that we are aware and we are letting our interlocutor into an intimate zone. Precisely because of this he or she will take care of us and try to make us even more comfortable. Believe it or not, the latter is a technique that even professional speakers use to create a connection with their audience. Weird, right