Then one day as we were sitting at the botanic garden eating some sandwiches I’d packed for us, the child turned to me and said, Well, you’re my grandmother and Iris is my mother, but you’re like my mother and she’s like . . . Then she stopped and her little face got all frowned up like she was trying to figure it out. I don’t know what she’s like, Grandma. She’s like somebody who is never here with us.